How intimacy can be a precise art form.

Sometimes lust and arousal are thought of as these spontaneous drives that hit us out of nowhere and can’t be controlled — just like those passionate Hollywood movie-style makeout scenes. But in regards to our internal responsive desire, there are biological and physical things that work internally to get us in the mood for sex. When the first arousal studies were done in the 1960s, our own responsive desires and human sexual responses were hypothesized to be a linear journey — one with a clear beginning, middle, and finish line. These studies…


The unofficial rules — from casual sex to open relationships.

Coming out of our cage
With over a year of lockdown measures under our belts, most of us are just about to stop wearing pants entirely. But though you may have taken all the necessary covid precautions for sex with more than one person, don’t forget that the standard sexual health practices still apply.

Vibrators and devices are a great way to heat up experiences with all kinds of partners, from the casual to the committed. But for people with multiple partners, or partners with multiple partners, compartmentalizing vibrators can…


From the earliest female orgasm to Hollywood’s initial, groundbreaking sex scene.

Sex on screen is hardly taboo in the era of Love Island and OnlyFans. We’re all but used to a little full-frontal nudity on our primetime television shows — and not just in the post-marital “making love” sense. In the past two decades, we’ve entered a new age of cinema: We’re witnessing forms of straight, queer and interracial intimacy. We’re following trans protagonists as they embark on sexual, coming-of-age journeys of their own. We’re witnessing kink culture in new and exciting ways.

For every great step forward in the…


The Sunday crossword in the New York Times. Remembering where we put our car keys. Understanding the second season of Westworld. There are times when our brains need a little bit of help.

But before you reach for that cup of coffee or another preferred stimulant to get those neurons firing, consider taking a few minutes to indulge in sexual fantasy. On top of, well, getting your blood flowing — sexual fantasies can stimulate your brain in more ways than you’d expect.

A focus group of 60 individuals, split into two groups was asked to think of either loving, more…


The whole point of having sex is to orgasm, right? Wrong.

For many of us, orgasms can be extremely elusive (on average, women only experience them 31–40% of the time), but that doesn’t mean we still can’t have a rollicking good time during sex. In fact, the less focus we put on ourselves to climax, the more we’re likely to enjoy it.

So if orgasms aren’t the point of sex, what is?

Trite as it may sound, when it comes to good sex, it’s not about the destination (read, climax), but rather the journey. That thrill of the first brush…


Debunking a common misconception.

It’s no secret that we’re passionate about making sex safe for everyone. But what many people don’t realize is that you can be at risk of getting an STI — like chlamydia, gonorrhea, herpes, HIV, HPV, syphilis, and trichomoniasis — without actually having sex.

Yep, the world can be a scary place sometimes. Here are some of the other ways you can get an STI.

Kissing: Aside from mono (aka “the kissing disease), you can also get oral herpes from making out with your partner if they are infected with it. …


Believe it or not, orgasm is not the end goal.

If you consider yourself a spiritually open-minded person with a considerable sexual appetite, at some point or another, you’ve probably stumbled upon — and had your interest piqued by — the concept of tantric sex. Originally stemming from ancient India and with roots in both Buddhism and Hinduism, tantric sex is a form of intimacy that, well, gets intimate — though maybe not in the way you’d think.

Like any eastern practice that’s been adopted (or, more likely, appropriated) by masses of self-declared free-spirited westerners, the true history and practice…


How to feel yourself, even when you’re not coupled up.

You’ve probably read, time and time again, on covers of magazines, advertisements, and more: It’s important to spice up your sex life. Of course, anytime this advice is doled out, it takes on a particular, specific form. Usually, the tips that are given have something to do with changing your routine with your partner, trying out a new position, maybe opting for a little role play, or otherwise, getting your S.O. on board with a change of pace. And while these things are all good and fun, they miss out…


In theory, a friends-with-benefits situation might sound super appealing — regular sex without the emotional drama or the commitment of a relationship. In reality, though, things can be more complicated.

So is it worth risking a friendship for the sake of getting laid? Maybe — after all, research shows that friendships can blossom into the healthiest long-term relationships. But then again, sometimes sex with friends can end up just being plain awkward.

If you’re considering redefining the friend zone to include some added benefits, here are some pointers.

Com-mu-ni-cate.
We get it: we probably sound like we’re on loop. But there’s…


Breathe into it.

It’s no secret that humans crave touch — forgoing it, we experience a phenomenon known as “skin hunger.” The feeling of another person’s hands on your skin (even in a platonic way) can make a dramatic impression on your mood. So it shouldn’t come as too much of a surprise to learn that since the earliest civilizations, humans have embraced the healing power of touch.

Namely, through massage, which has been extolled for a number of its different medical benefits in various cultures through time. Of course, there are different kinds of massages one might experience (medicinal…

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