First off, getting wet isn’t always quite so simple.

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In essence, the vagina produces its own lubrication, which is stimulated by sexual arousal. This lubrication reduces friction, making intercourse more comfortable and, importantly, more fun. Some people struggle to produce natural lubrication, though — and that may be due to menopause, medication, or simply chance: Contrary to what pop culture may tell you, the inability to get wet on your own is not necessarily a sign that you’re not in the mood or that you have some underlying health problems.

What causes lubrication?
It’s a natural sexual reflex, which relies on blood flow, enzymes, and some hormones — notably, estrogen. So, during sexual activity such as foreplay, your body does what it needs to do. There’s no set amount of time it might take to get wet — in younger women, that can be less than a minute, but in women over the age of 40, it typically takes between one and three minutes, according to Summit Medical Group. That’s not a set standard, though — in fact, similarly to penile erection, factors like stress can also make it more difficult for you to feel physically aroused, even if part of you is in the mood. …



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