The landscape before, during, and after Stonewall.

In 2021, a gay bar is hardly a niche venue. Quite the opposite: Most folks will tell you that dedicated queer nightlife venues have a notable reputation for particularly raucous and lively environs — or rather, for being a damn good time. However accurate that superlative may be, though, gay bars have long served a much deeper, weightier purpose: They’re a safe space, a gathering grounds, a venue for community organizing. And over the last century, it would be difficult to overstate the key role they’ve played in LGBTQ+ liberation.

Let’s rewind to…


A few keys to making consensual non-monogamy successful.

Monogamy is the preferred M.O. for most people in relationships, right? Well, not exactly. Research conducted by social psychologist Dr. Justin Lehmiller revealed that one of the most common things that people in the United States fantasize about is being in an open relationship. And now that our society is increasingly embracing the nuances of sexuality and sexual preferences, more couples are choosing to open up their relationships.

“Open relationships can give you the chance to date different kinds of people,” says sexologist Megan Stubbs. “Maybe your new partner is nothing like…


Whether it’s in the back seat, the front seat, on the hood or up against the side, car sex looks pretty damn easy in the movies. In real life, however, the logistics of it are far less glamorous, and — let’s be honest — often just plain awkward.

But don’t let that deter you. There are a lot of benefits to be found in car sex — such spontaneous encounters can inject a welcome spark into a relationship. That said, there are a few keys to mastering the art of the four-wheeled romp. Here’s our maudern guide to car sex.


Interrogating the whole “caught in the act” act.

Sex on-screen hasn’t always been a nuanced enterprise. In fact, the very nature of cinematic sex has evolved in a myriad of dramatic, varied ways throughout the last two decades, alone. But for all the recent variety in on-screen intercourse — from increasingly realistic depictions of inclusive body types and sexualities to focus on kinks, consent, and even body hair — it would seem that one form of pleasure earns a less generous rendering: masturbation.

Think about it: Nearly every iconic TV or movie scene fits a certain trope. It’s the whole…


The science behind going al fresco.

Nothing against sex in private places — surely we’re all aligned on that front — but quasi-public intercourse has long had a distinct appeal. Be it a car in a grocery store lot, a restaurant bathroom, or a barside alleyway, the very notion of nearly exhibitionist intercourse is certainly a spicy one.

Now, we’re not condoning full-scale park bench boning by any stretch. No matter where you’re located, there is likely a battery of laws banning such behavior (think: police charges for public nudity and lude acts). …


On-screen queer duos throughout history.

Certainly, mainstream media has some work to do when it comes to queer representation in film and on television. But that’s not to say that we haven’t made some solid progress in recent years when it comes to sharing LGBTQ+ narratives on screen. In fact, in the realm of romance, in particular, there are plenty of queer duos in the running for all-out most inspirational, profoundly alluring, envy-inspiring couples. That’s why we’re rounding up the most iconic, non-hetero romantic duos on-screen — most of whom you’ve surely shed tears over at some point. …


From seaweed to olive oil, all the things humans used to get it on.

Studies have proved that the best sexual interactions are often accompanied by lube. Looking back at its history, lubricants have been used around the world for 1000’s of years. In the early days, there was an array of creative lubricants used by different cultures and countries. Two of the first known homemade lubricants were the Greeks with their use of olive oil, and the Japanese with their innovative smashed up yams. While it has become increasingly popular throughout the years, it’s certainly not a new item.


No matter how strong your love for each other might be, in a long-term relationship, you can often find yourself having very little sex — or sometimes none at all.

There can be many different reasons why this might be happening, but, in some cases, it could be that all your sex life needs is, well, a little kick-start.

In theory, it might seem like the longer we go without sex, the more we desire it, but that’s not always how it works. Sexual desire actually increases with regular sexual activity. …


If you have at least one, you’re in the majority.

The science is clear: Vibrators are more than a “sex toy,” but rather an essential tool for sexual wellness. This is why the fact that 53% of American women between the ages of 18 and 60 use one isn’t surprising. It seems surprising that the number isn’t even higher.

This percentage comes from researchers at Indiana University, who published their findings in 2009, releasing the first-ever reported data about vibrator use from a nationally representative sample. …


Five ways to keep the spark alive.

It’s a fact that having a baby directly impacts personal identity and even the most intimate partnership(s). After having children, it becomes more difficult to carve out space for your relationship, and as the child continues to grow, your role as a caretaker becomes more demanding. When kids come into the picture, it changes the dynamic that you and your partner(s) once had alone, so it can take time to rebuild the intimacy that perhaps once felt so effortless. …

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